Somebody asked me recently, “How do you transfer a winning mindset from one person to another?” Short answer: it’s a process. I wish it were as simple as magically wiggling your fingers next to your head and then pointing them towards whomever you want to help…but, it’s not.
However, it can be done. Meaning, yes, you can transfer the information, ideas, and perspective from yourself to someone else. But, there are two sides of the equation: 1) what you give; 2) what they figure out.
To hold up you side of the bargain, you give them the tools, steps, and processes that are associated with the ideas or concepts you’re trying to pass on. Depending on the topic or situation, you may have to model or show them by example what you’re trying to convey.
What they’re responsible for is to figure out A) whether or not they have the “want to”; B) how to internalize what you give them; C) how to use it as their own. As they take in your information and figure out how to put it to use, they will grow in the capacity in which they were hoping to.
Teachers can talk and talk until they’re blue in the face, but students aren’t going to use any of the new information until they’re ready to make it their own. As the old adage goes, “When the student is ready, a teacher will appear.”
Sometimes, people already have the tools or know the steps they need, in order to succeed or grow. It’s just a matter of timing, so that the realization of having it kicks in. You may only need to turn on the proverbial “light switch” of their understanding, or simply show them where the switch is.
“What?! It was there all along?” “Yep.” …is a common conversation that people have aloud or in their heads. So, no, you’re not alone in this thing of realization or learning.
When you give somebody else the tools, steps, and processes for how to do something, they don’t have to be complicated. Over and over, people have told me, “Just give it to me in plain English. That’s the best way I learn.” So, I’ve tried to do that. It doesn’t always come out that way, but that’s the goal.
Also, tools are just that: tools. They aren’t meant to be the be-all, end-all. They’re only a part of the greater recipe of success. They’re the foundational pieces of equipment that can improve somebody’s chances of success. The same thing goes for steps and processes. Nobody wants dozens of steps or a complicated process. They want it to be simple. So, translate it in your mind and make it so.
Our minds have an amazing ability to capture information, learn new things, and quickly turn them into frameworks of “Ah ha!” moments. After a while, those moments will become second nature to us, and we’ll expand that new framework in ways that connect with the other vast knowledge and experiences we already have.
Hopefully, you’ll get to see the beauty of that growth in others, as you transfer your winning mindset to them.
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