The friendships you develop when you’re young will follow you through your later years, hopefully. They’re the ones you can count on when the chips are down and when the times get tough. Sure, there are other people that you’ll meet along the way and become friends with as well, but there’s not the same certainty as from the ones established in your youth. Perhaps I’m mistaken, and all of the ones that you developed in your youth were false or bad or shallow, but I doubt it.
Hearing people talk about friends they made in the third grade or the sixth grade or in Kindergarten makes me realize that the things that happened in our foundational years are some of the strongest life lessons and bonds that formed and shaped our lives. Some of those formations were positive, and some were negative. Yet either way, they were strong – that’s why most people remember them even into their twilight years. They helped shape who we are today.
So, how to enjoy them to the max? Relish the good bonds, and break free from the bad ones. The bad ones no longer need to have a place in your life. Discard them and turn them off. Let them go from who you are and from who you think yourself to be. Don’t hang on to those negative things just because they’ve always been around. Instead, let them become good things today. Replace the negative things from yesterday with good things from today. Take out the old, and put in the new. Take out the bad, and put in the good. Take out the detrimental, and put in the uplifting, the caring, and the perspectives that will hold you up and sustain you until your dying breath.
Yes, relish the good bonds. Know that they are there for a reason. They will help you when all else fails, when all else dismays, and when all else casts down from their earthly castles the legions of men who will strike against you. In those times, the good bonds that were formed in your childhood will come through. All those things that you found sanctity in, they will prevail and prove to be a fortress for you. Those moments of freedom, of mercy, and of glory will still stand true when the amazing brightness lights up your day. Those will be the things that are still in the room and fill your heart with goodness. Revel in them. Believe that they will hold you close and will allow you to still be you – no matter what else happens.
Playing in the rain, seeing a sunset in summer, watching calla lilies move gently in the breeze – things like that and others are the things that will prove out to be the memories surrounding the good times in your life that are worth filling all of your memories with.
An ancient tackling of the peace you seek may attempt to destroy what you call home. Do not allow that attack to succeed. Prevail against it and hold fast to your territory. Hold fast to your preeminence that you call truth – in it you will find grounding when all else is lost. Keep the good, lasting memories alive, and believe always that they will come through for you in a clutch.
Finally, keep pursuing that which you know is right. In pursuing, you not only uncover the truth; you also become stronger and more refined. With time and pursuit, your accuracy and precision become better. You improve with age, wisdom, and perfection. You establish goodness as the gold standard and will formulate a solid pathway on which others can follow in the future.
Books by Marty